00:00:30:16 00:00:33:13 Five years have passed since I married Mehdy. 00:00:33:23 00:00:38:00 I love every corner of our house but I know that I only... 00:00:38:00 00:00:42:04 … married him to get away from my parents and migrate to Tehran. 00:00:42:28 00:00:47:11 Now when I see my friends and girls of my age who are… 00:00:47:11 00:00:50:24 … single I wonder why I married so young. 00:00:51:05 00:00:55:04 Why didn't I experience a life as a single girl like them? 00:01:01:16 00:01:04:26 Unwelcome in Tehran 00:01:09:08 00:01:12:03 - Hi… how are you? - How are you? 00:01:13:26 00:01:15:28 Mina, what do you want to ask? 00:01:15:28 00:01:18:02 What… from the girls? 00:01:18:02 00:01:21:09 Just how long they’ve lived in Tehran? 00:01:21:09 00:01:23:01 What they are doing? Are they working… 00:01:23:01 00:01:24:17 …are they students? 00:01:24:17 00:01:26:15 Why have they not returned to their hometowns? 00:01:26:15 00:01:28:22 Just a couple of questions, It’s nothing special. 00:01:28:26 00:01:30:25 Write down Maryam and Akram’s names too. 00:01:30:25 00:01:32:21 Maryam Saberi and Akram. 00:01:32:21 00:01:35:12 - Write down Khadijeh’s name too. - All right… 00:01:35:19 00:01:37:19 Her friend Hoda too. 00:01:38:02 00:01:39:28 Hoda… what is Hoda’s major? 00:01:39:28 00:01:42:04 Hoda… she is… 00:01:43:26 00:01:45:04 … either studying development... 00:01:45:04 00:01:46:29 ... or one of these social sciences majors. 00:01:46:29 00:01:47:28 Where is she from? 00:01:48:20 00:01:51:06 I have no idea… I think she is from Isfahan. 00:01:51:23 00:01:53:21 All right… does she live in a dorm here? 00:01:53:21 00:01:56:23 I think so, but she works… 00:01:56:23 00:01:58:07 … she has her own life… 00:01:58:07 00:02:00:03 … she’s just living in the dorm because... 00:02:00:03 00:02:01:25 ... they had offered to give her accommodation. 00:02:04:01 00:02:08:03 OK… one, two, three, four, five, and six… OK this will do. 00:02:10:02 00:02:13:18 - Hassan is the sound all right? - It’s all right… let’s begin. 00:02:13:18 00:02:15:04 Recording. 00:02:15:04 00:02:18:11 How long have you been living in Tehran? 00:02:18:21 00:02:22:11 I came to Tehran in 2005. 00:02:22:11 00:02:25:10 My family live in Mashad. 00:02:25:10 00:02:29:28 I decided to come and live in Tehran because of the job offer that I had. 00:02:30:03 00:02:33:28 My study was a way of escaping my hometown… 00:02:33:28 00:02:35:27 I like to live in Tehran. 00:02:35:27 00:02:40:17 When I first Came, I had an extraordinary feeling… 00:02:40:17 00:02:44:23 … that I had escaped the watchful eyes of people… 00:02:44:23 00:02:46:20 … it was a unique sensation. 00:02:46:20 00:02:50:20 There are restrictions, if you are in a small town… 00:02:50:20 00:02:55:09 … from a cultural point of view and traditional beliefs… 00:02:55:09 00:03:00:21 … the advantages in my field of study, obtaining many things… 00:03:00:21 00:03:04:02 … even when you want to get a book in a small town you will face problems. 00:03:04:08 00:03:07:18 The experience of a single girl living by herself? 00:03:07:18 00:03:10:11 I don’t know, it is an extraordinary and unique event… 00:03:10:11 00:03:15:16 … after all these years I still meet people who are very surprised… 00:03:15:16 00:03:17:12 … they can’t swallow it… 00:03:17:12 00:03:21:02 … lots of people ask me if I’m not scared sleeping alone at night? 00:03:21:02 00:03:23:06 It has its own problems… 00:03:23:06 00:03:27:14 … but when I go over things in my mind, which I have done repeatedly… 00:03:27:14 00:03:30:01 … when I go back over the past few years… 00:03:30:01 00:03:33:26 I really believe that independence and its positive … 00:03:33:26 00:03:38:07 … sides outweigh the negative sides and its problems. 00:03:38:07 00:03:42:00 Are you happy with your work and your living conditions in Tehran? 00:03:42:19 00:03:45:16 Well my living condition is very difficult… 00:03:45:16 00:03:49:19 … if I had my family’s support things would have been different … 00:03:49:19 00:03:52:28 … nevertheless I’m very happy… 00:03:52:28 00:03:57:22 … because it is the life that I have chosen… no-one else is involved. 00:03:57:22 00:04:00:22 My name is Maryam… my surname is Sheikh… 00:04:00:26 00:04:04:23 I’ve worked hard to become Maryam Sheikh… 00:04:04:23 00:04:07:00 … and I am not willing to give it up at any cost. 00:04:11:28 00:04:15:21 I can see it in my family… 00:04:15:21 00:04:19:05 … not only in my family, among my friends… 00:04:19:05 00:04:23:27 … among my employers, who live in Tehran with their families… 00:04:23:27 00:04:29:02 … in their conversations… in their looks… 00:04:29:02 00:04:31:28 … their attitude towards my way of life… 00:04:31:28 00:04:37:09 … I can easily feel their yearning and that they wish they could be in my shoes. 00:04:41:09 00:04:42:21 I don’t know… 00:04:45:01 00:04:47:03 - What? - The watermelon. 00:04:47:03 00:04:48:19 No I don’t want any more. 00:04:48:19 00:04:49:28 Should it be cut better? 00:04:49:28 00:04:52:15 That’s enough Azar dear… 00:04:52:25 00:04:55:22 The girls are here but they’re on a trip, they’ve gone back home. 00:04:55:22 00:04:59:17 I’m tempted to come and live with you in the boarding-house. 00:04:59:17 00:05:02:26 Seriously? Azar is leaving. 00:05:04:06 00:05:05:23 Can I take Azar’s place? 00:05:05:23 00:05:07:10 No, Azar is leaving… 00:05:09:12 00:05:11:01 That was a wisecrack? 00:05:11:07 00:05:14:15 The rooftop is a place to walk… this guy is on the roof 24/7. 00:05:14:24 00:05:18:20 Well he knows there’s a girls’ boarding-house across the street. 00:05:18:20 00:05:20:20 - Have you signed a contract? - Why… 00:05:21:06 00:05:23:02 I don’t have a contract. 00:05:23:02 00:05:25:06 What do you mean? How do you seal a contract? 00:05:25:06 00:05:27:12 The contract is for 3 months. 00:05:27:12 00:05:31:07 Then, um… but when I came, I didn’t sign a contract… 00:05:31:07 00:05:33:07 … and I don’t intend to... 00:05:33:07 00:05:36:10 ... because they said that I had to sign a 3 month contract… 00:05:36:10 00:05:39:21 … if I do that then I have to stay for 3 months… 00:05:39:21 00:05:42:15 … I know that I won’t be staying for 3 months… 00:05:42:15 00:05:43:21 … I want to leave… 00:05:43:21 00:05:46:06 Hmm… how long have you been staying here? 00:05:46:06 00:05:47:28 Now? 4 months. 00:05:47:28 00:05:50:05 - You’re here for the past 4 months? - Yep, it’s been 4 months. 00:05:50:05 00:05:53:21 I was here for a year or two, after I finished my studies… 00:05:53:21 00:05:56:21 … then I went to Sabzehvaar… because I was unemployed... 00:05:56:21 00:05:59:07 ... I said to myself I might find a job there. 00:05:59:07 00:06:02:20 Then I decided to work even at a bank... 00:06:02:20 00:06:04:19 ... such as Melli Bank, other offices. 00:06:04:29 00:06:08:13 I told them that I was willing to work for gratis… 00:06:08:13 00:06:12:23 … I thought it would be an experience, and I would get to know people… 00:06:12:23 00:06:16:28 … they wouldn’t accept me, one night we were chatting… 00:06:16:28 00:06:21:11 … one of the girls asked why I wouldn’t become a nurse for the elderly. 00:06:21:11 00:06:25:14 I thought it was beneath me then I thought no, 00:06:25:14 00:06:28:11 … what would I be doing working in people’s house. 00:06:28:11 00:06:31:18 I had worked so hard to get here to end up like this? 00:06:31:18 00:06:34:14 Then I thought to myself, what’s wrong with that? 00:06:34:14 00:06:37:21 I wouldn’t need to pay rent… 00:06:37:21 00:06:42:09 … and it would be a source of income for me anyway. 00:06:44:10 00:06:48:01 Because of the way you live, no-one, Asks for our hand? 00:06:48:01 00:06:50:13 I’m sensitive just like Mina. 00:06:50:13 00:06:54:12 Mrs. Eskandari wants to increase the rent which she hasn’t… 00:06:54:12 00:06:56:07 … but she’s taking away the services… 00:06:56:07 00:06:57:12 Increase the rent? 00:06:57:12 00:06:59:29 Yep she wanted to increase the rent, but hasn’t… 00:06:59:29 00:07:02:14 … She’s just taking away the amenities. 00:07:03:22 00:07:06:22 The girls said that we can’t use... 00:07:06:22 00:07:11:06 ... the washing machine or the vacuum cleaner any more. 00:07:11:07 00:07:13:19 Mehdi has the experience of living in the dorm for 7 years… 00:07:13:19 00:07:15:13 ... I’ve never had. 00:07:15:13 00:07:18:13 In our married life, he is very… 00:07:18:13 00:07:20:06 - Yeah, yeah. - … flexible. 00:07:20:06 00:07:23:05 He puts up with things, but not me… 00:07:23:05 00:07:27:19 I blow up easily, why is here like this, why is it like that? 00:07:27:19 00:07:32:01 In the end I have to clean up a messy house. 00:07:32:01 00:07:35:04 He won’t help me clean up, unless I start first. 00:07:37:03 00:07:39:00 Do you always eat together? 00:07:39:24 00:07:41:10 Most of the time. 00:07:41:10 00:07:43:05 Look, our gang… 00:07:45:20 00:07:48:12 … if you can call us a gang… 00:07:49:11 00:07:51:19 … we are almost… kind of in harmony. 00:07:53:13 00:07:54:27 All the trouble you have to go through… 00:07:54:27 00:07:56:04 Yeah. 00:08:02:04 00:08:04:00 - You’re wearing a chador in this one? - Yep… 00:08:06:06 00:08:10:08 When I first arrived, I would, go out in a manteau. 00:08:12:08 00:08:14:16 But for a long time when you would go to Sabzehvaar… 00:08:14:16 00:08:15:20 ... you wore a chador. 00:08:15:21 00:08:18:10 Yep… but they knew that I was not wearing a chador. 00:08:18:28 00:08:20:15 Come and thread my face! 00:08:20:16 00:08:23:07 You know I used to wear a chador at the university… 00:08:23:07 00:08:27:17 … because I had worn it, and then it was difficult for me. 00:08:27:17 00:08:30:19 I didn’t like to, I remember at that time… 00:08:30:19 00:08:35:01 I had a… suitor, a boy from Tehran… 00:08:35:01 00:08:40:01 I was a freshman, the first thing that I told him was that… 00:08:40:01 00:08:41:23 I hoped that it was not because... 00:08:41:23 00:08:43:24 ... of the chador that he asked me to marry him… 00:08:43:24 00:08:45:19 … because I don’t believe in the chador… 00:08:46:16 00:08:49:14 Our professor "Islami", you see… 00:08:49:14 00:08:52:22 … I didn’t wear chador out of choice. 00:08:53:11 00:08:55:15 Chador was a covering for your head… right? 00:08:55:15 00:08:56:23 Yeah. 00:08:57:15 00:08:59:20 Do you have a picture of your parents? 00:08:59:26 00:09:02:12 I had one but I tore it up, this one… 00:09:03:19 00:09:04:14 Why? 00:09:05:06 00:09:08:14 I had two names, my father named me Azar… 00:09:08:14 00:09:10:14 … my grandfather said that I should be called Khatoon... 00:09:10:14 00:09:11:20 ... what sort of a name is Azar? 00:09:12:14 00:09:14:21 Then I… wanted to go to the university… 00:09:14:21 00:09:17:13 … I said that I didn’t want to be called Khatoon. 00:09:20:14 00:09:23:00 Then you changed your name to Azar in your ID card? 00:09:23:00 00:09:26:24 Yep… I changed my name before I got my high school diploma. 00:10:15:01 00:10:16:17 Thank you. 00:10:17:29 00:10:19:16 Who are you serving? 00:10:19:16 00:10:22:18 I’m serving you all, you can select, whatever you want. 00:10:22:18 00:10:25:03 When I was in my 3rd year of studies… 00:10:25:03 00:10:28:11 … my mother and my brother told me... 00:10:28:11 00:10:30:17 ... that they wouldn’t allow me to go… 00:10:30:17 00:10:33:04 … they easily threatened me. 00:10:33:04 00:10:34:18 Was it during the summer holidays that... 00:10:34:18 00:10:36:05 ... you were back home or another time? 00:10:36:21 00:10:38:10 It was between two semesters. 00:10:38:10 00:10:40:19 I can’t remember exactly whether it was during summer... 00:10:40:19 00:10:41:26 - ... or between semesters. - Where did you live? 00:10:42:00 00:10:43:08 In Sabzehvaar. 00:10:43:21 00:10:46:04 They wouldn’t allow me to go back… 00:10:46:04 00:10:50:23 … I quietly packed my suitcase and sneaked out. 00:10:50:23 00:10:52:21 In the morning when they were asleep… 00:10:52:21 00:10:58:24 … I left them a letter telling them that I know what I want in life… 00:10:58:24 00:11:01:20 … and that they couldn’t decide for me… 00:11:01:24 00:11:04:21 What did they do then? What happened next? 00:11:04:21 00:11:06:29 They would call me but I wouldn’t return their calls, for some time… 00:11:06:29 00:11:08:19 So when did you next meet them? 00:11:08:19 00:11:13:11 This went on for a while until I saw them… 00:11:13:11 00:11:16:24 … I told them that you forced me to treat you like that… 00:11:16:24 00:11:21:04 … to leave you without telling you… 00:11:22:25 00:11:27:12 … well now, they haven’t come to terms with many things… 00:11:27:12 00:11:30:27 … they still cannot accept that... 00:11:30:27 00:11:35:23 ... as a 31 year old girl I can decide for myself… 00:11:35:23 00:11:40:07 … just because I’m female, they get to decide for me… 00:11:40:07 00:11:43:09 … you know, I still have a lot of restrictions… 00:11:43:17 00:11:47:19 … when I go back home… I have a different dress code, 00:11:47:19 00:11:50:00 I have a different manner… 00:11:50:00 00:11:53:11 … my social life in my hometown is different to what I have here. 00:11:53:11 00:11:55:05 It was very interesting that I was not... 00:11:55:05 00:11:57:13 ... only involved with my own family... 00:11:57:15 00:12:00:08 … but with all my relatives… 00:12:00:08 00:12:01:28 It is extended… 00:12:01:28 00:12:04:02 Totally… aunts… uncles… 00:12:04:02 00:12:09:16 … my mother’s side of the family didn’t interfere much… 00:12:09:16 00:12:13:10 … because their concept was a little different, but my father’s side… 00:12:13:10 00:12:20:04 … all of them from a 16 year-old boy to my 60 year-old aunt… 00:12:20:04 00:12:24:28 … to my 70 year-old grandmother… my other aunt who is 50… 00:12:24:28 00:12:29:22 “Azar gather your belonging, we’re leaving. ”…“ where to grandma? ” 00:12:29:22 00:12:33:15 She said: “We’re leaving… what are you doing in this city? ” 00:12:33:22 00:12:35:29 I said: “What do mean? ” 00:12:35:29 00:12:39:00 When I became a student… 00:12:39:14 00:12:45:00 … my family was sensitive to some issues and indifferent … 00:12:45:00 00:12:50:12 … to things that other families were concerned about. 00:12:50:12 00:12:52:12 I was surprised… 00:12:52:12 00:12:56:27 … they were sensitive towards me going out… 00:12:56:27 00:12:58:15 … why I was out every night. 00:12:58:15 00:12:59:22 You dine at a restaurant every night… 00:12:59:22 00:13:01:13 ... you are out with your friends every night. 00:13:01:13 00:13:04:11 My family was not really concerned about this… 00:13:04:11 00:13:08:23 … about something bad happening to me, you know… 00:13:08:23 00:13:10:28 … their only concern was that... 00:13:10:28 00:13:13:30 ... what people would say about their daughter… 00:13:13:30 00:13:15:19 They were worried for themselves. 00:13:15:19 00:13:21:14 They were particularly concerned about what their response would be… 00:13:21:14 00:13:24:24 … how they would respond to neighbour’s questions? 00:13:24:24 00:13:28:10 I think another issue is that in small towns, 00:13:28:10 00:13:31:04 ... the relationships are face to face… 00:13:31:11 00:13:34:13 … there’s pressure on your family… 00:13:34:13 00:13:39:19 … over leaving and probably the family... 00:13:39:19 00:13:43:07 ... and friendswho keep asking if Azar has got married? 00:13:43:08 00:13:46:05 Why hasn’t she? Excuse me, she must be a tart! 00:13:46:05 00:13:50:03 At that moment when my mother said… 00:13:50:03 00:13:52:20 I wish that same thing that happened... 00:13:52:20 00:13:54:22 ... to such and such a person’s daughter would happen … 00:13:54:22 00:13:57:23 … to you so that your body would be dropped in... 00:13:57:23 00:13:59:28 ... a remote place and they would bring me your corpse. 00:13:59:28 00:14:02:25 She prayed that such a thing would... 00:14:02:25 00:14:05:23 ... happen to her own daughter just like that… 00:14:06:05 00:14:11:18 … I found it difficult, when a person keeps telling you for years that… 00:14:11:18 00:14:13:22 … they are worried for you then... 00:14:13:22 00:14:19:25 ... she looks you in the eyes and tells you such a thing… 00:14:19:25 00:14:26:09 … for me… it happened many times, it’s very… difficult… 00:14:26:09 00:14:28:01 Yep, it’s very difficult… 00:14:28:01 00:14:31:13 It’s horrible… I can’t imagine. 00:14:32:10 00:14:33:16 In my opinion... 00:14:33:16 00:14:37:05 ... the best blessing that we as women have is that we can cry. 00:14:38:15 00:14:42:04 You know… if you hear this from anyone else… 00:14:42:04 00:14:44:07 … it wouldn’t be that hard on you... 00:14:44:07 00:14:46:22 ... but when you hear it from your own mother… 00:14:46:22 00:14:50:08 … from your own brother, really… I mean… 00:14:50:08 00:14:52:23 … it is like being buried under debris… it means… 00:14:52:23 00:14:56:04 You have nowhere to turn to… 00:15:07:22 00:15:10:02 Where did Mina go? Mina! 00:15:16:12 00:15:20:18 You know, I should have practised somewhere less crowded… 00:15:20:18 00:15:22:20 ... So that I wouldn’t be scared… 00:15:23:07 00:15:26:15 - It isn’t that crowded… - It's very crowded 00:16:08:04 00:16:10:12 It is a slope. 00:16:56:29 00:16:58:18 - Hi. - Hi… welcome… 00:16:58:27 00:17:01:15 Britain added fuel to the fire and in 1917... 00:17:01:15 00:17:05:07 ... the then foreign minister convinced Britain to… 00:17:09:04 00:17:11:16 - What age group are you looking for? - Is it a story? 00:17:11:18 00:17:13:11 Between the age of 3 to 12. 00:17:13:11 00:17:15:04 There… that is a series… 00:17:17:25 00:17:20:09 … for the 10 year-olds… 00:17:20:09 00:17:22:26 - Yeah the Judies… - It’s 5 volumes. 00:17:38:13 00:17:43:00 A 50 or 60 square meter apartment without an owner around… 00:17:43:10 00:17:44:28 How much can you afford for the deposit? 00:17:44:28 00:17:46:19 7 million Tomans up front and 200,000 Tomans for the rent. 00:17:46:19 00:17:50:23 7 million Tomans… 200,000 Tomans… are you employed? 00:17:51:10 00:17:52:04 Yes… 00:17:53:20 00:17:55:23 You are… where do you work? 00:17:56:06 00:17:59:19 My place of work, it is somewhere… 00:18:00:04 00:18:02:07 No… this is the condition… 00:18:02:07 00:18:06:05 The landlord must know where you work? Where… 00:18:06:05 00:18:10:03 Why should he know… where my place of work is? 00:18:10:03 00:18:14:19 You know… we’ve had several issues in the past… 00:18:14:19 00:18:15:22 … We have rented the place... 00:18:15:22 00:18:18:05 ... they were members of the Gold Quest pyramid company. 00:18:18:05 00:18:21:14 … or had other problems, now they are not renting their… 00:18:21:14 00:18:25:25 … houses in this neighbourhood… not until they know who you are… 00:18:25:25 00:18:29:10 … and where you work? Whether you are a student or not… 00:18:29:10 00:18:31:15 Well I am an employee… in an office… 00:18:31:15 00:18:33:06 An employee in an office? 00:18:35:22 00:18:39:21 Will any family member of yours come to sign the contract? 00:18:39:29 00:18:42:20 No… I always sign my own lease… 00:18:42:20 00:18:45:23 … there’s no need for them to come, I live my own life… 00:18:46:26 00:18:49:14 Well you mean you will be the only one to sign the contract? 00:18:49:14 00:18:53:09 Of course it is the lease of my house… I want to rent a place for myself… 00:18:53:09 00:18:55:06 … I’m not renting it for my family… 00:18:55:06 00:18:58:04 No, I mean… you don’t have a family? 00:18:58:19 00:19:02:12 Hmm… they are not here… I live by myself… 00:19:02:18 00:19:06:12 I mean… any parents… or… 00:19:07:20 00:19:08:09 No. 00:19:46:25 00:19:52:23 Mehdi… would you get me that thing… the laptop stand. 00:19:52:23 00:19:54:13 - What? - The laptop stand. 00:19:55:27 00:19:57:16 - What? - The laptop stand. 00:19:58:06 00:19:59:27 Aha… the laptop stand… 00:20:13:25 00:20:16:03 Should I save these things for you that are here? 00:20:16:23 00:20:18:06 Yeah, save them for me… 00:20:18:13 00:20:19:21 Where should I save them? 00:20:20:04 00:20:21:15 What… this? No… delete it. 00:20:21:15 00:20:23:28 I don’t know, it’s related toarchitecture and the regulations on sketching… 00:20:23:28 00:20:25:23 You don’t want them? None of them? Should I shut it down? 00:20:25:23 00:20:27:09 No. I was searching… 00:20:28:08 00:20:31:04 I called this afternoon but no-one was at the dorm… 00:20:31:08 00:20:33:06 Nobody answered the phone? 00:20:33:06 00:20:35:12 Yes, someone answered and said there is no-one in the suite… 00:20:35:24 00:20:37:11 I thought you were out looking for an apartment… 00:20:37:11 00:20:39:12 I called to set a time to meet tomorrow… 00:20:39:12 00:20:40:28 ... what time should we be at the train station? 00:20:40:28 00:20:42:16 What time? 00:20:42:16 00:20:45:05 9 is fine. 00:20:52:05 00:20:57:18 Garmsar… Damghan… Shahrood 00:21:58:29 00:22:00:10 No, no, over there… over there. 00:22:00:10 00:22:05:04 Come over here, here… Yousef… my dear… 00:22:05:11 00:22:07:04 We’ll go together later on… we’ll go later… 00:22:07:14 00:22:11:08 These are the books that you can read… OK… 00:22:11:08 00:22:14:00 I will lend them to you… will you read them? 00:22:14:00 00:22:16:15 Do you like to read them? Yeah? OK… 00:22:16:15 00:22:20:04 … this is the first page… what does it say? 00:22:21:15 00:22:23:28 Soheil wants to read… won’t you? 00:22:26:15 00:22:28:14 Yeah, read it and tell me what you think… 00:22:28:14 00:22:33:16 A bear…a bear… a bear… a bear… 00:22:33:29 00:22:37:04 A bear… a bear… what is the story? 00:22:37:26 00:22:39:03 - Bye! - Bye! 00:23:10:11 00:23:15:10 My plan is to set up a library here… is there a library here? 00:23:15:10 00:23:16:22 There is… but… 00:23:16:22 00:23:20:28 There aren’t many books, a few mosques have library… 00:23:20:28 00:23:28:25 … the Basij unit has one, there aren’t many books, just a few… 00:23:29:15 00:23:32:12 The books of Saheb ol Zaman are good, they are high level books… 00:23:32:12 00:23:34:09 … we can’t use them… 00:23:34:19 00:23:38:21 Well… I’ll lend you these books… 00:23:38:21 00:23:42:01 Just pass them on to people who you think... 00:23:42:01 00:23:48:03 ... would like read them or not, any way… 00:23:48:06 00:23:49:10 By force… hah? 00:23:49:10 00:23:51:10 No, not by force… no! 00:23:51:10 00:23:54:22 - Nothing will be done through force… - No, never, do anything… by force… 00:23:54:22 00:23:57:03 Well… when you don’t like something, then it is by force… 00:23:57:03 00:23:59:21 No, no, give them to the ones who like reading… 00:23:59:21 00:24:01:20 … and for those who don’t, just encourage them… 00:24:01:20 00:24:03:22 … they have to choose whether they want to or not, these books… 00:24:03:22 00:24:05:29 These days nobody can force another person to do anything by force… 00:24:05:29 00:24:07:28 - Yes they can… - People can do as they please… 00:24:07:28 00:24:09:25 There is no force involved… 00:24:09:25 00:24:13:04 Reference books for master degrees. 00:24:14:05 00:24:16:02 You have to study for your master degree, right? 00:24:16:08 00:24:17:29 I still have another year to finish my studies… 00:24:17:29 00:24:19:03 Are you in the 7th semester now? 00:24:19:03 00:24:21:24 - What’s your major? - Jurisprudence. 00:24:22:08 00:24:24:04 Is it the same major as yours Somayeh? 00:24:24:04 00:24:26:18 - Yes… - Yeah? It’s like Sara’s major? 00:24:26:28 00:24:28:01 Is it a good major? 00:24:29:04 00:24:30:21 It’s good as long as you further your studies… 00:24:31:24 00:24:32:25 Definitely. 00:24:33:07 00:24:36:01 Yeah? Where do you like to go for that? 00:24:37:18 00:24:39:10 I’d like to go to… Ghom. 00:24:39:10 00:24:43:02 Ghom? You’d like to go to Ghom? 00:24:44:10 00:24:48:19 Will you be given permission to go to Ghom if you are admitted? 00:24:48:19 00:24:49:19 I don’t know… 00:24:49:19 00:24:55:27 Aha… Well, when I was admitted at the university and left, years later… 00:24:56:17 00:24:59:25 I could feel the difference of attitude in my aunts, 00:24:59:25 00:25:04:22 … uncles, my own family… my brothers… well… 00:25:05:06 00:25:09:13 May be you expect them to behave as you like them to, well… 00:25:10:07 00:25:13:12 … they haven’t changed their attitudes… your expectations have changed… 00:25:13:12 00:25:15:01 No, no, no… it hasn’t… 00:25:15:08 00:25:16:20 No… you have to admit… 00:25:16:20 00:25:20:14 Now… in our family people’s views have changed? 00:25:21:04 00:25:23:14 Well… some… I’m not saying everyone… 00:25:23:16 00:25:24:22 - Well that’s it… - I… 00:25:24:22 00:25:29:00 One should explain to them… for this reason… 00:25:29:00 00:25:34:26 She has gone to an advanced society… has changed… it has its effects… 00:25:35:24 00:25:38:25 Well yeah… I’m not saying everyone… some people… 00:25:38:25 00:25:40:04 One shouldn’t think that if a person is kept in a space… 00:25:40:04 00:25:43:00 … like locked up inside a room and asked not to do anything… 00:25:43:00 00:25:46:02 … then obviously that person will not sin… 00:25:46:02 00:25:49:13 … but if he goes somewhere and... 00:25:49:13 00:25:50:25 ... doesn’t do anything then he is to be admired… 00:25:51:08 00:25:53:04 … not to say a person kept locked up... 00:25:53:04 00:25:54:24 ... is a saint and incapable of committing a sin. 00:25:54:24 00:25:58:12 People just want you to wear a chador… that’s enough… 00:25:58:23 00:26:01:27 It shouldn’t be like this… our Islam says that we shouldn’t lie… 00:26:01:27 00:26:03:19 … we shouldn’t accuse… we shouldn’t backbite… 00:26:03:19 00:26:08:28 Every person has their own specific goal… 00:26:08:28 00:26:12:02 … my goal and yours could be totally different… 00:26:12:02 00:26:18:06 … or with these two ladies… we all try in our own way… 00:26:18:19 00:26:22:22 I try… whether I will reach my goal or not… 00:26:22:28 00:26:25:29 Would you like to get married now? Work now? 00:26:25:29 00:26:28:25 Well no, look… Marriage is not a goal… 00:26:29:25 00:26:33:22 … my goal is to have a life so that God willing… 00:26:33:22 00:26:38:07 … my life on the other side would be better, people are different… 00:26:38:07 00:26:41:15 When you have Islamic beliefs, marriage is half your faith… 00:26:41:15 00:26:44:28 That’s right… they are all in line with my goals… 00:26:45:16 00:26:49:12 … therefore my marriage, my life and everything else are in line with my goals… 00:26:49:12 00:26:52:00 So you are not thinking about not getting married… 00:26:52:04 00:26:59:27 No. One should get married and not regret it two days later… 00:27:00:03 00:27:01:12 That’s right. 00:27:01:14 00:27:06:10 Azar, to me marriage is meaningless because I’m studying now… 00:27:06:10 00:27:09:25 … later when I’ve finished my studies… 00:27:10:25 00:27:12:14 … I may think about it because I don’t want to be alone… 00:27:12:25 00:27:18:10 What if you want to work, in a place which is different to Nodeh… 00:27:18:10 00:27:21:14 … or Sabzehvaar, do you think that… you may have any problems with that? 00:27:21:14 00:27:24:06 Different… different how? 00:27:24:09 00:27:28:29 Like having a good job in another city… 00:27:30:14 00:27:31:28 A good job? 00:27:31:28 00:27:33:01 Like my job… 00:27:33:15 00:27:36:19 Like you… everything like yours? 00:27:36:19 00:27:37:15 Yep… 00:27:43:14 00:27:45:29 I don’t know… I don’t know… 00:27:50:17 00:27:54:03 Your character… is very interesting for me… 00:27:54:03 00:27:56:03 … part of it is because I envy you… 00:27:56:03 00:28:00:18 … because you put your foot down and said that you wanted to do this… 00:28:00:18 00:28:03:28 … that they said what they wanted, but you objected… 00:28:03:28 00:28:10:15 … but I didn’t tell my family what I wanted to do, what I wish to think… 00:28:10:15 00:28:16:07 … how I wanted to live my life, part of it was because I knew they would disagree. 00:28:16:07 00:28:20:15 I said to myself that the only way is to get married, 6 months after my marriage… 00:28:20:15 00:28:24:28 … I was suffering from severe depression, I felt that… 00:28:24:28 00:28:29:08 … I had become dependent… my character had changed… 00:28:29:08 00:28:33:17 … it was as if I couldn’t go anywhere with Mehdi, I was never like that before. 00:28:33:17 00:28:38:25 I was more relaxed before getting married, because I was not prepared… 00:28:38:25 00:28:42:07 … it’s very difficult for me… I mean very difficult… 00:28:42:07 00:28:46:04 … that people would think of me as a married woman… 00:28:47:06 00:28:52:03 Why? You are married and you can do whatever you wish… 00:28:52:03 00:29:01:23 … you have your independence, you and Mehdi have a very good relationship… 00:29:01:23 00:29:04:02 … is your problem only the fact that… 00:29:04:02 00:29:06:28 You didn’t experience that living apart from your family? 00:29:06:28 00:29:09:16 My main problem is the way that people look at me. 00:29:09:16 00:29:12:14 With what they expect from me… I have no problems with Mehdi. 00:29:12:14 00:29:14:29 … nothing serious, but we are a married couple… 00:29:14:29 00:29:22:02 Now… you think your married life doesn’t fulfil your needs… 00:29:22:02 00:29:26:11 You don’t have independence? What’s it like? 00:29:26:16 00:29:30:08 I think that if I had experienced that part of my life… 00:29:30:08 00:29:33:09 I might have never got married, I still could have had a relationship with Mehdi… 00:29:33:09 00:29:36:01 … but not have married him… 00:29:36:01 00:29:40:01 … or maybe our relationship would be over by now and I was still single and… 00:29:40:01 00:29:43:05 … after having experienced that life I would then decide… 00:29:43:05 00:29:45:21 … whether to get married or not or whatever… 00:30:07:18 00:30:11:20 I said… I always wanted things in my life… 00:30:13:12 00:30:15:26 then I thought I would get married… 00:30:17:26 00:30:22:10 … and I would have my own life… that I would… 00:30:22:10 00:30:23:28 Well it is your life… 00:30:23:28 00:30:27:08 I would decide what I wanted to do… or not… 00:30:27:08 00:30:30:12 … but when I got married… it didn’t happen for me… 00:30:31:05 00:30:36:17 I mean… when I see my friends… I don’t know… 00:30:36:17 00:30:37:28 the issue of… immigration… 00:30:41:19 00:30:42:28 … maybe, 00:30:44:04 00:30:45:21 … this is a kind of immigration… 00:30:47:17 00:30:50:29 I now think that… I used to think that if I lived in Tehran… 00:30:50:29 00:30:53:08 … if I lived in a bigger city it would be a lot different for me, so… 00:30:54:15 00:30:58:11 I’m saying… even if one migrates one will not obtain what they want… 00:30:59:03 00:31:00:15 No… what I want to say is that… 00:31:03:00 00:31:06:28 I got married to obtain something else… but… 00:31:31:18 00:31:35:16 … I’m facing stupid obstacles… 00:31:38:27 00:31:44:24 Which have overshadowed my goal… everything… 00:31:44:24 00:31:48:22 … my life has turned into something else, it was defined in a different way… 00:31:49:22 00:31:53:20 … a bunch of definitions which I didn’t believe in came to mind… 00:31:55:20 00:31:59:09 … even though I tried to fight them but they came any way… 00:31:59:09 00:32:03:19 In reality there are no definitions, I don’t know why you are thinking this way… 00:32:05:03 00:32:07:14 There are no definitions… look Mehdi… 00:32:09:07 00:32:16:13 I know that you are unlike anyone else that I have never seen. 00:32:17:24 00:32:23:06 You have tried your best for me to have the life that I like to please me. 00:32:25:24 00:32:28:11 We can live apart… I don’t know… 00:32:29:19 00:32:33:17 But Mehdi, this is not easy, they way you put it… 00:32:33:17 00:32:38:23 … is as if… we couldn’t resist not getting married… 00:32:38:23 00:32:41:25 … then we decide… to live apart… 00:32:41:25 00:32:43:19 No… we can live in 2 separate houses… 00:32:44:12 00:32:50:06 What do you mean live in 2 separate houses… no-one can accept this! 00:32:50:23 00:32:53:06 We can’t afford one household… 00:32:54:12 00:32:56:03 - It just, not about living apart… - We now have 15 million Tomans… 00:32:56:03 00:32:58:05 You can have 10… I can have 5… 00:32:58:05 00:33:01:17 We can rent 2 small houses, we don’t need to live in such a big house. 00:33:01:17 00:33:09:04 It’s just not living apart that will make things all right… 00:33:09:28 00:33:11:15 … there are hundreds of issues… 00:33:44:19 00:33:47:04 I asked a question… and I didn’t get any answers… 00:33:47:27 00:33:56:23 If you decide… to live separately… what is this? 00:33:56:23 00:34:00:24 What are the obstacles? What will the society do for you… ? 00:34:00:24 00:34:02:15 There are a lot of obstacles. 00:34:02:15 00:34:05:27 As a married woman… if I decide to do such a thing, 00:34:05:27 00:34:09:15 You and other people who are or are not here… 00:34:09:15 00:34:13:00 … the first thing that they will say is what does this mean… 00:34:13:00 00:34:14:25 She had no problems so why did she leave? 00:34:14:25 00:34:16:16 - Right… I will say that? - Well that’s it. 00:34:16:16 00:34:18:03 I’m telling you now, what do you mean? 00:34:18:03 00:34:19:05 Why do you want to do such a thing… ? 00:34:19:05 00:34:22:18 Well I’d like to do this, because I haven’t experienced it, I’d like to… 00:34:22:18 00:34:25:05 Do you think that one should experience everything themselves? 00:34:25:05 00:34:27:19 Well… not everything, but this is an important part… 00:34:27:19 00:34:31:26 I’d like to become an addict why? Because I haven’t experienced it. 00:34:31:26 00:34:36:06 No, becoming an addict has got nothing to do with wanting to be independent… 00:34:36:06 00:34:38:16 What if it has the same consequences for you? 00:34:38:28 00:34:42:02 It won’t… I’ll try not to create such consequences… 00:34:42:02 00:34:43:06 Why do you try? 00:34:43:06 00:34:47:15 Because I pursue something else, a different life… I’d like… 00:34:47:15 00:34:54:18 To lead my own life… I don’t like to be seen in a life in which… 00:34:54:18 00:34:58:15 … I need someone by my side to do part of what is needed to be done… 00:34:58:23 00:35:00:04 What’s wrong with that? 00:35:00:04 00:35:02:10 It’s bad for me… I don’t like it to be that way… 00:35:02:10 00:35:04:26 Why? People should live alone… 00:35:04:26 00:35:06:12 People should live alone… 00:35:06:12 00:35:11:12 If you live alone… have your own life… 00:35:11:12 00:35:14:12 … have a house to yourself or live with 2 roommates. 00:35:15:06 00:35:19:03 This doesn’t mean that you want to seclude yourself … 00:35:19:03 00:35:21:07 …it means that you will have your own life… 00:35:21:07 00:35:24:20 You don’t want to answer to anybody about what time you’ll get home… 00:35:24:20 00:35:26:13 When you’ll leave… what you are doing… 00:35:26:13 00:35:27:24 This gentleman is your roommate… 00:35:27:24 00:35:30:25 Have I asked you for anything? Have I ever asked you why you’ve come home late? 00:35:30:25 00:35:33:23 Well no… it is just natural… that you ask such a thing. 00:35:34:08 00:35:37:22 Well… we are not roommates… we’re a married couple… 00:35:38:13 00:35:40:16 - Well it doesn’t make any difference… - It does! 00:35:40:16 00:35:43:18 I’ve never expected anything from you as a husband… 00:35:43:18 00:35:45:15 … I’ve alwaysm given you the freedom… 00:35:45:15 00:35:46:26 … No, that’s what you think… 00:35:46:26 00:35:49:00 … You think to yourself that you have given me freedom… 00:35:49:00 00:35:51:07 … Just like I think that I’ve give you freedom… 00:35:51:07 00:35:55:03 … but then you tell me that you don’t have any privacy in this house… 00:35:55:03 00:35:57:08 Privacy and freedom are not the same thing… 00:35:57:08 00:35:59:00 Any way privacy is what you want… 00:35:59:00 00:36:03:10 If you are escaping, whatever you are escaping from you’ll definitely lose… 00:36:03:10 00:36:06:05 … it doesn’t make any difference… if you are escaping… 00:36:06:05 00:36:09:05 … and your escape leads to marriage… you’ll lose… 00:36:09:05 00:36:12:28 … if your escape leads to you living alone, you’ll definitely lose… 00:36:12:28 00:36:16:00 … whatever way you escape, I believe that you have lost… 00:36:16:00 00:36:20:11 Ten years ago… when I used to come home at 2 in the morning… 00:36:20:11 00:36:24:23 … once my sister said to me: “It’s cool that you can stay out until 2. ” 00:36:24:23 00:36:30:09 Well… I couldn’t tell my sister… what we did… when we were out, 00:36:30:09 00:36:31:24 … we walked… went to the cinema. 00:36:31:24 00:36:37:05 I couldn’t tell her as she thought going out was a big deal. 00:36:37:05 00:36:40:28 Well… what I could do was to put myself in her shoes… 00:36:40:28 00:36:44:21 I would have had to be home by 8! 00:37:01:19 00:37:03:08 Mina, when shall we go looking for a place? 00:37:04:23 00:37:07:24 Place? What for? 00:37:12:08 00:37:13:23 To have 2 separate places… 00:37:50:11 00:37:52:05 Shiraz passengers, please board… 00:38:29:02 00:38:31:02 - Hi. - Hi. How are you? 00:38:33:17 00:38:34:22 - How are you? - How are you? 00:38:34:22 00:38:36:21 The power is off! 00:38:36:22 00:38:38:05 How are you Dad? 00:38:41:10 00:38:43:11 - Did you come up the stairs? Hah? - Yeah… the lift… 00:38:56:07 00:38:58:04 - What’s up? - Nothing. 00:39:00:27 00:39:02:04 How’s Mehdi doing? Is he all right? 00:39:02:04 00:39:03:25 He’s fine… how are you Mum? Are you all right? 00:39:08:03 00:39:09:15 I wish you had brought Mehdi along… 00:39:09:15 00:39:11:03 - Who… Mehdi? - Yeah. 00:39:11:08 00:39:12:15 He’s at work… 00:39:22:23 00:39:25:15 When I see you or Namira who have not yet married… 00:39:25:15 00:39:32:27 … then I ask myself why I married so young and got myself involved in life… 00:39:32:27 00:39:36:20 … responsibility… I don’t know… worries… 00:39:38:19 00:39:43:29 You have a lot of responsibilities? I don’t know I feel as if you don’t. 00:39:43:29 00:39:47:09 Your life is very easy, I don’t know, I feel as if your life hasn’t changed much… 00:39:47:27 00:39:50:20 … it’s true that responsibility comes with marriage, I say… I… 00:39:50:20 00:39:54:19 … myself… you were always the one who was against marriage… 00:39:54:19 00:39:57:08 … even though you were the first to marry in our group but… 00:39:57:08 00:40:00:13 … in my opinion… I still… 00:40:00:13 00:40:03:18 I was the only one who got married… nobody else did… 00:40:04:14 00:40:07:00 - Well Maryam… - Yeah Maryam has married too. 00:40:08:10 00:40:10:29 I don’t know about anyone else but because… 00:40:10:29 00:40:16:04 I loved to study I was always against getting married but … 00:40:16:04 00:40:21:13 … sometimes I feel there will come a time where will not like to be alone… 00:41:51:19 00:41:54:02 What was it about? 00:42:00:00 00:42:04:28 Hmm… about… Mom has guessed… 00:42:07:03 00:42:07:29 Well… 00:42:09:14 00:42:17:24 It’s about my life… I don’t know… I regret having married… 00:42:18:27 00:42:23:18 So… you regret it… what do you regret? 00:42:24:20 00:42:31:15 I don’t know, I don’t have anything… I regret getting married early… 00:42:35:09 00:42:41:26 Getting married early is not a problem… what is your problem with that… 00:42:41:26 00:42:43:22 … is it a bad marriage? 00:42:44:15 00:42:54:14 No… I feel as if I have lost a part in my life… I shared my life… 00:42:54:22 00:42:59:23 I believe that you’re living a perfect life… 00:43:00:22 00:43:02:12 Yeah… exactly… 00:43:02:12 00:43:06:21 If you decide to remarry or not… 00:43:06:21 00:43:09:25 … You won’t have more options than you already have… 00:43:11:00 00:43:16:16 … life will limit you… work issues will limit you… 00:43:16:16 00:43:20:23 … life pressures will restrict you… I think… 00:43:21:18 00:43:24:25 … Mehdi helps you more than he restricts you… 00:43:24:25 00:43:28:09 No… I think that one shouldn’t necessarily… 00:43:28:09 00:43:32:12 … have to be in a crucial situation to decide, to live apart… 00:43:32:12 00:43:39:09 … because other people judge their situation to be a crucial one… 00:43:40:18 00:43:42:25 What is it you don’t have right now that. 00:43:42:25 00:43:46:04 You think you would be better off with living alone… 00:43:46:04 00:43:50:16 … if you decide to go on a trip I don’t think Mehdi would have a problem with that… 00:43:51:05 00:43:54:18 … if you decide to work… 00:43:55:17 00:43:57:10 You’re still free… 00:43:57:10 00:43:59:21 … You don’t have any problems regarding your artistic work… 00:43:59:21 00:44:02:21 … you made the right decision… you are successful… 00:44:02:21 00:44:06:13 … you have a good life, you do a good job, considering your age… 00:44:06:13 00:44:10:10 What if I had decided to live on my own back then? 00:44:11:29 00:44:16:08 If you had decided to live on your own then that would have been another situation… 00:44:16:08 00:44:18:04 … we would have thought about it… 00:44:18:04 00:44:21:24 I can’t tell you what we would have done 5 years ago if you had decided to do so… 00:44:21:24 00:44:23:18 … or what we would have said… 00:44:23:18 00:44:28:10 Back then, it wasn't like this, for a girl your age… 00:44:28:10 00:44:34:01 to live on her own, in our society, in our country... 00:44:34:01 00:44:36:25 … it is a little better now, but… 00:44:36:25 00:44:39:15 My situation was not different to Mahmood’s but… 00:44:39:15 00:44:41:11 … Mahmood left and lived his own life… 00:44:41:11 00:44:43:12 Well I’m saying the same thing, a girl couldn’t… 00:44:43:12 00:44:46:01 Yeah… if you were a student… we wouldn’t have stopped you… 00:44:46:01 00:44:47:26 No… I'm not saying a student… 00:44:47:26 00:44:49:26 … I'm saying, I was a student in Shiraz… 00:44:49:26 00:44:54:00 What if I had decided to go and work in Tehran after I had finished my studies… 00:44:54:00 00:44:58:27 Well… if you had been employed in an organization… or in an office… 00:44:58:27 00:45:01:00 What if I had my own job? 00:45:01:00 00:45:04:13 Well… you could have… rented a place, to live… 00:45:04:13 00:45:10:12 … but it doesn’t mean that, you could have continued living alone… 00:45:10:12 00:45:14:09 … to be on your own… I don’t believe in it… 00:45:14:09 00:45:17:20 … living alone has not solved any problems in our society… 00:45:18:20 00:45:21:19 … other than causing more confusion. 00:45:21:19 00:45:26:02 You mean even if I decide to do so… you won’t support me at all? 00:45:27:14 00:45:31:17 This is a strange question… you can ask this when you are in the situation… 00:45:31:17 00:45:38:01 I can’t tell now… we won’t give up on you as our child… 00:45:39:09 00:45:43:03 … we will stand behind you, but we don’t agree with your decision… 00:45:43:12 00:45:47:22 … we won’t, how can I put it? 00:46:18:14 00:46:22:02 Mehdi, I found our wedding film when Kaveh was moving… 00:46:23:03 00:46:24:27 - Did you get it from him? - It was among the fripperies… 00:46:27:11 00:46:28:28 Had he edited the film? 00:46:29:22 00:46:31:09 Edited what? 00:46:34:01 00:46:35:26 It’s good that you found it… and it wasn’t lost… 00:46:38:19 00:46:40:12 - Mehdi… - Hah? 00:46:44:07 00:46:49:21 I wanted to say no… by the way, I’ve made up my mind… 00:46:50:07 00:46:51:03 Well… 00:46:51:12 00:46:55:16 What? I think we should live apart… 00:46:55:19 00:46:56:15 So… 00:46:57:01 00:46:58:19 I don’t have any money… 00:46:59:05 00:47:00:09 You don’t? 00:47:04:23 00:47:06:19 I’ve decided to stay in a boarding-house for a while… 00:47:08:03 00:47:09:28 - A boarding-house? - Hmm… 00:47:11:00 00:47:12:06 With Azar? 00:47:14:19 00:47:18:02 What has it got to do with Azar? What will you do then? 00:47:18:24 00:47:19:27 I’ll stay here… 00:47:20:27 00:47:22:10 You’ll be back again… 00:47:22:15 00:47:24:06 How do you know that I will? 00:47:24:16 00:47:30:12 You will not endure it… you have to come to terms with 6 different opinions… 00:47:30:12 00:47:34:08 Well I have never experienced such a thing… I intend to do that… 00:47:34:08 00:47:37:23 I will either come to terms with it or not… I’m certain that I will… 00:47:38:08 00:47:39:22 I’m sure that you won’t… 00:47:39:29 00:47:44:00 Over there… I will define my relationship… 00:47:44:00 00:47:47:14 I will get friendly with whomever I like… or not… 00:47:49:01 00:47:54:13 Our relationship is defined, we are a married couple, we live under the same roof… 00:47:56:06 00:47:56:27 Go… 00:47:58:09 00:48:00:04 Will you be able to handle what the others will say? 00:48:00:11 00:48:01:15 Who do you mean? 00:48:01:22 00:48:04:18 The ones who ask why we did it. 00:48:06:25 00:48:09:08 You are getting separated, what should I answer them… 00:48:09:08 00:48:10:18 … to whom do I want to answer… 00:48:10:18 00:48:12:20 You were the one who said we should get 2 different places… 00:48:13:06 00:48:15:20 I said it because you wanted to live independently… I said it… 00:48:15:20 00:48:17:10 this is really stupid… 00:48:17:15 00:48:18:23 What is stupid? 00:48:19:19 00:48:20:26 Is very stupid… 00:48:20:26 00:48:24:21 You are the one, who keeps telling me that we should look for a place… 00:48:24:21 00:48:26:18 Well you are the one who said that you wanted to be independent… 00:48:26:18 00:48:29:04 I told you to go and live someplace else because you wanted to… 00:48:29:04 00:48:30:15 So why do say it is stupid? 00:48:30:15 00:48:33:02 Why should I answer them, you are the one who wants to be independent… 00:48:33:02 00:48:39:06 Well I thought since you proposed that we should do this you will be the one to answer them. 00:48:39:06 00:48:42:03 I can’t answer them since I don’t dare, I haven’t until now… 00:48:42:03 00:48:45:16 What’s it got to do with it? What you are saying is irrational… 00:48:45:16 00:48:48:14 - Then you said that you will answer them… - It’s very illogical… 00:48:48:28 00:48:51:15 Now that we are going to do this it is illogical? 00:48:54:21 00:48:55:26 Whatever… 00:48:56:02 00:49:00:26 If I dare tell them that I want to live in a boarding-house or… 00:49:00:26 00:49:05:00 … to live apart I wouldn’t have got married in the first place! 00:49:06:08 00:49:10:03 Well now… now you have reached a point where you can say it… 00:49:10:14 00:49:11:21 I haven’t… 00:49:14:27 00:49:19:11 You want to be independent… then go and see what will happen… 00:49:19:11 00:49:20:22 … once you are independent… 00:49:23:22 00:49:25:19 I said I wanted to experience it… 00:49:25:19 00:49:27:26 Then go… and see what happens! 00:49:28:09 00:49:31:01 I might regret it… I will return and we will live together… 00:49:33:09 00:49:35:10 No… I won’t accept you if you return. 00:49:36:27 00:49:38:10 I won’t accept you if you return. 00:49:38:17 00:49:39:23 What will you not accept? 00:49:39:23 00:49:40:28 For you to come back… 00:49:41:04 00:49:44:09 For me to return? What do you mean you won’t accept? 00:49:44:09 00:49:45:27 You’ll go for good. 00:49:46:17 00:49:48:25 You’re saying that you don’t have any problems if I leave… 00:49:48:25 00:49:53:07 No… I’ve come to the conclusion that if you return I can’t accept… 00:50:10:24 00:50:11:20 Cool 00:50:32:04 00:50:34:27 No we had to put coins… 00:50:35:02 00:50:37:12 Shall we go for a ride? 00:50:37:12 00:50:40:26 I can’t eat anymore… I’m so bored with the cotton candy… 00:50:40:26 00:50:42:09 Is this A? 00:50:42:09 00:50:45:05 You drove us up the wall because you kept asking for cotton candy… 00:50:53:19 00:50:55:15 This is really scary… 00:51:00:08 00:51:02:16 37, 36 and 40 00:51:08:04 00:51:09:00 40… 00:51:09:09 00:51:10:10 Me… thank you 00:51:13:01 00:51:14:15 37 is for me… thank you…